OT-Holidays

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OT-Holidays

Post by Szpo » Fri, 22 Nov 2002 21:30:20



What puts you in the Holiday mood?  
What special tradition do you have on Christmas Day?
I'm looking at boxes and boxes of Holiday decorations, and just can't seem to
make myself put them up.  In the short span of three years, I have lost my
mother, father, brother, sister, and best friend.  Christmas Day was when "my
side" of the family came to our house for dinner.  Now, there is no one left to
come.  It is a sad and painful day for me.  How do I keep the joy and magic
alive for my husband and son?  I know I am not to only one to loose family
members, what do you do?  What are some new traditions we can do on Xmas Day to
keep the day as special as it should be?  Thanks, Cathy
 
 
 

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Post by Lee Brouille » Fri, 22 Nov 2002 22:56:09


Wow Cathy, that's a lot to handle - I'm so very sorry for such a loss.

Christmas is about sharing: when we were overseas and didn't have family
around, we sought out others in the same boat. One year I ended up cooking
dinner for about 54 guys from the local military site in Germany. What about
work? Anyone there single or without family locally? Church? Local "old
folks" home? Maybe you and your family could volunteer at a local shelter
for the day, helping with dinner for the homeless or abused? What about your
neighbors? Anyone else in the same boat? Perhaps you could do a "pot luck"
dinner, or one of those "progressive" dinners that were so popular a few
years ago (You go to one house for appetizers, another for salad/soup,
another for the main course, another for dessert . . . that way everyone
gets a chance to show off their decorations!)

I'm sure someone else will offer some suggestions. Too many people get
depressed around the Holidays: don't join their ranks - there's still too
much good in your life to succumb to that.  Good luck!

Lee


Quote:
> What puts you in the Holiday mood?
> What special tradition do you have on Christmas Day?
> I'm looking at boxes and boxes of Holiday decorations, and just can't seem
to
> make myself put them up.  In the short span of three years, I have lost my
> mother, father, brother, sister, and best friend.  Christmas Day was when
"my
> side" of the family came to our house for dinner.  Now, there is no one
left to
> come.  It is a sad and painful day for me.  How do I keep the joy and
magic
> alive for my husband and son?  I know I am not to only one to loose family
> members, what do you do?  What are some new traditions we can do on Xmas
Day to
> keep the day as special as it should be?  Thanks, Cathy

 
 
 

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Post by dr-s.. » Sat, 23 Nov 2002 06:48:55


leave town.  after a good friend died her husband went to Florida to visit his aunt
.. a couple years in a row until he felt he could cope.  
do nothing for Christmas until you actually FEEL like doing it.  forcing yourself
isnt going to help.  if your DH and son want to do the decorating, let them.
wallow in the sadness.  this is what my mother and I did after losing my father and
brother in an airplane crash.  we spent a whole year wallowing actually.  this is
only good for slavic type people who are good at wallowing.  those from stiff upper
lip cultures arent going to benefit.
figure how much you spent for your lost loved ones, then donate those amounts to what
would be their favorite charity and/or buy gifts for children or even elderly ***s
in your community.  adopt an elderly or maybe a couple who dont have kids, or kids
are out of town for Christmas dinner.  local university may have students stranded in
town and really need someplace to have dinner.  fill your house up with people.  you
would be really surprised, but relative strangers dont fight with each other the way
any families do.  it may actually "feel better" having done this after the fact (in
contrast to next day disappointments).  
volunteer at a local soup kitchen or homeless shelter type thing where you serve
Christmas dinner to homeless people.  
INgrid
Quote:

>What puts you in the Holiday mood?  
>What special tradition do you have on Christmas Day?
>I'm looking at boxes and boxes of Holiday decorations, and just can't seem to
>make myself put them up.  

 
 
 

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Post by mad » Sat, 23 Nov 2002 12:53:46


the year that my husband lost his mom and his dad had to go into assisted
living for alzheimers patients, we volunteered at the thanksgiving meal
sponsored by the ministerial alliance. that kept us from going completely
off the deep end from grief.
mad

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> What puts you in the Holiday mood?
> What special tradition do you have on Christmas Day?
> I'm looking at boxes and boxes of Holiday decorations, and just can't seem to
> make myself put them up.  In the short span of three years, I have lost my
> mother, father, brother, sister, and best friend.  Christmas Day was when "my
> side" of the family came to our house for dinner.  Now, there is no one left
> to
> come.  It is a sad and painful day for me.  How do I keep the joy and magic
> alive for my husband and son?  I know I am not to only one to loose family
> members, what do you do?  What are some new traditions we can do on Xmas Day
> to
> keep the day as special as it should be?  Thanks, Cathy

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