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Am I dong something wrong?

Post by Little Blu » Sun, 04 Aug 2002 05:46:52



Hiya alll,

My cat "Little Blue" was from a cat refuge, she had been there for two year
after being badly mistreated for several years. No-one wanted to adopt her
as she, understandably, scratched humans.

Well, the first week she hid behind the settee, and the second week she
actually came out and sat on my lap (only once). She started to take food
from my hand, which is a miracle as she is terrified of hands.

This last few days, she has been hiding again.
I don't know if I am doing something wrong. I am getting very upset because
I think that she may have been happier in the shelter... I don't know what
to do.

Should I persevere, or should I take her back... even though this would
break my heart, i just want her to be happy.

Thanks
Sue

 
 
 

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Post by Cat Protecto » Sun, 04 Aug 2002 05:50:49


Be patient and let her do things in her own time and don't get frustrated. I
wouldn't throw in the towel yet. Congrats on your new arrival.

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Quote:
> Hiya alll,

> My cat "Little Blue" was from a cat refuge, she had been there for two
year
> after being badly mistreated for several years. No-one wanted to adopt her
> as she, understandably, scratched humans.

> Well, the first week she hid behind the settee, and the second week she
> actually came out and sat on my lap (only once). She started to take food
> from my hand, which is a miracle as she is terrified of hands.

> This last few days, she has been hiding again.
> I don't know if I am doing something wrong. I am getting very upset
because
> I think that she may have been happier in the shelter... I don't know what
> to do.

> Should I persevere, or should I take her back... even though this would
> break my heart, i just want her to be happy.

> Thanks
> Sue

 
 
 

Am I dong something wrong?

Post by Little Blu » Sun, 04 Aug 2002 05:50:41



Quote:
> Hiya all,

> My cat "Little Blue" was from a cat refuge, she had been there for two
year
> after being badly mistreated for several years. No-one wanted to adopt her
> as she, understandably, scratched humans.

> Well, the first week she hid behind the settee, and the second week she
> actually came out and sat on my lap (only once). She started to take food
> from my hand, which is a miracle as she is terrified of hands.

> This last few days, she has been hiding again.
> I don't know if I am doing something wrong. I am getting very upset
because
> I think that she may have been happier in the shelter... I don't know what
> to do.

> Should I persevere, or should I take her back... even though this would
> break my heart, i just want her to be happy.

> Thanks
> Sue

 
 
 

Am I dong something wrong?

Post by Little Blu » Sun, 04 Aug 2002 05:51:13



Quote:
> Hiya all,

> My cat "Little Blue" was from a cat refuge, she had been there for two
year
> after being badly mistreated for several years. No-one wanted to adopt her
> as she, understandably, scratched humans.

> Well, the first week she hid behind the settee, and the second week she
> actually came out and sat on my lap (only once). She started to take food
> from my hand, which is a miracle as she is terrified of hands.

> This last few days, she has been hiding again.
> I don't know if I am doing something wrong. I am getting very upset
because
> I think that she may have been happier in the shelter... I don't know what
> to do.

> Should I persevere, or should I take her back... even though this would
> break my heart, i just want her to be happy.

> Thanks
> Sue

 
 
 

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Post by Dan Mahone » Sun, 04 Aug 2002 05:55:35


On Fri, 2 Aug 2002 20:46:52 +0000 (UTC), "Little Blue"

Quote:

>Should I persevere, or should I take her back... even though this would
>break my heart, i just want her to be happy.

You probably just need to give her time. If she had a hard life for
the 2 years before you got her, then she's got a lot of  conditioning
to get over. The best thing you can do is be patient and let her
progress at her own rate. The fact that she let you hand-feed so early
is very remarkable. When she's ready to do it again, she will.

As long as she has a safe environment, plenty of food and water,
available shelter, and adequate medical care (let getting her neutered
if it hasn't already been done), she'll be a LOT better off with you
than with a shelter. If she is given enough time she'll enrich your
life tremendously, and you'll enrich hers. There's nothing to beat the
love of a kitty!

-------------------------------
Dan Mahoney

 
 
 

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Post by Little Blu » Sun, 04 Aug 2002 06:07:02



Quote:
> Hiya alll,

Sorry guys, I don't know why this got sent so many times!!!  ;-)

Thanks for all your help, I just want her to be happy... she has had a
horrible life up unitl now.

Luv
Sue

 
 
 

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Post by Kare » Sun, 04 Aug 2002 06:13:08


Be patient. If she was badly treated for several years, that is a lot to get
over. Where is she hiding? Is it always the same "safe" place? If I was you,
I would take to sitting on the floor OFTEN. Make it your regular spot. We
humans are very threatening when "up". We are mobile and I'm sure that
sitting down on "cat level" will help get her more comfortable with you. I
think the key here is patience. Even well adjusted shelter cats take a month
or two to get used to their new environment. I think you are doing fine!
Keep a bowl of "treats" by you too. I think it will work out, but just give
it TIME. Keep us posted.

Karen

Quote:
> Hiya alll,

> My cat "Little Blue" was from a cat refuge, she had been there for two
year
> after being badly mistreated for several years. No-one wanted to adopt her
> as she, understandably, scratched humans.

> Well, the first week she hid behind the settee, and the second week she
> actually came out and sat on my lap (only once). She started to take food
> from my hand, which is a miracle as she is terrified of hands.

> This last few days, she has been hiding again.
> I don't know if I am doing something wrong. I am getting very upset
because
> I think that she may have been happier in the shelter... I don't know what
> to do.

> Should I persevere, or should I take her back... even though this would
> break my heart, i just want her to be happy.

> Thanks
> Sue

 
 
 

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Post by rebecca spran » Sun, 04 Aug 2002 06:14:20


Quote:

> Should I persevere, or should I take her back... even though this would
> break my heart, i just want her to be happy.

sounds like you're doing just fine.. it's only been what, 3 weeks? it'll just
take her some time to warm up to you. she may just be picking up on your
anxiety about it taking so long right now. if you've already had her taking
treats from your hand, I'd say that's a pretty good sign that she'll come
around eventually.

good luck!

Rebecca
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http://briefcase.yahoo.com/wondertwnz

 
 
 

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Post by Chery » Sun, 04 Aug 2002 06:16:05


Quote:



>> Hiya alll,

> Sorry guys, I don't know why this got sent so many times!!!  ;-)

(looks at subject line) 'Cuz yer doing something wrong. ;)  j/k, couldn't
resist!

Quote:

> Thanks for all your help, I just want her to be happy... she has had a
> horrible life up unitl now.

> Luv
> Sue

I say keep up the good work.  Nothing is better than being at the shelter.
She just needs time and you just wait, the bond you will have with her will
be amazing. :) And you saved her life.