>My wife adopted a short-hair who is about 2.5 years old back in
>January. It is now mid-May and the cat is just as bad, if not worse.
>This is the most anti-social cat I have ever seen. You can't get
>close to it without the car growling and hissing at you. If you can
>pick it up, it growls like a tiger and constantly hisses and thrashes
>in an attempt to get down. The cat gets *somewhat* affectionate if
>it's hungry, but otherwise does everything it can to avoid contact
>with humans. It sometimes jumps up and sleeps next to my wife in bed,
>but if I try to pet it, it pulls away and hisses at me.
>Will this cat ever recover, or am I just in for 10 years or more of
>the cat hating me? :)
fully respect the cat by not trying to pick it up and pet it when it
hisses. Make the attempt, but the minute it hisses, become very
*** to it. Keep doing this, and each time, get a bit closer and
stay there longer. Only pet the animal where it will allow you to pet
it. Try to avoid under the throat. Stay away from the haunches. Try
to let the cat see you are extremely gentle, but retreat when it gets
uncomfortable. Keep doing this, quitely and gently, and after a few
years, you will have a more comfortable cat. And if you will accept
the following, which I have to offer, you can also try this:
When you approach the cat, VISUALIZE yourself petting the animal, and
visualize the cat allowing you to do it. I believe animals communicate
telepathically. So do some more reliable sources, which I can't name
here because I forgot their names (!), but animals have been medically
diagnosed in this way by some woman who lives in the States. She has
been able to get dogs to stop biting, cats to stop scratching, just by
visualization. See if you can receive any message, visually in your
minds eye FROM the cat. Now, you may be thinking I am a flake by now!
So, like I said, only do this if you are open to it.
I got my Geena Bird as an 8 week old kitten. It took me a few years of
doing exactly what I suggested above in order to have her trust me.
She still, to this day, does NOT LIKE being picked up...so, I never
pick her up without her permission, so to speak. Since she and her
sister are older now, (can't leap as easily as before) and since I have
to feed them on the counter because of the dog (he will eat their food
otherwise) she will let me lift her onto the counter. That's it!
Never to be cuddled or any other such thing...and she is the MOST
loveable animal, mushing, gushing in bed, cuddling, purring...just
never pick her up!
Hope this helps.