Am I making the right decision?

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Am I making the right decision?

Post by gmpere » Mon, 16 Jun 1997 04:00:00



One of my kitties,  Wolfie, has been battling Feline Leukemia.  He was
only recently diagnosed, but the diagnosis was made after he had already
tested negative once.  I took him to the vet because he had once again
gotten an upper respiratory infection and I was worried he wouldn't be
able to kick it.  That was 7 weeks ago.  He has been  on immunoregulin
and was re-tested today.  Once again, he was positive for the virus.

I spent all day today crying and asking myself what to do.  He is
unlikely ever to get better, especially since he was sick already.  He
has periods where he looks perfectly normal, and then he crashes
big-time.  Now, he is crashing.  I am afraid he might pass the virus on
to my other kitties who have been pretty much kept away from him since
he was diagnosed.  I also know I have very little chance of being able
to afford more extended care for him.  this one bout has been  pretty
expensive as it is.

  After just force-feeding him again today and seeing him look really
bad (3rd eyelid and everything), I have pretty much decided to put him
down.  It's breaking my heart, you know?  I wonder if anyone out there
has gone through this and can tell me how they handled it.  I feel like
I'm making the decision selfishly, as though I should wait and see if he
gets better again.  It's just that I don't think he's ever going to be
well.  It's been 7 weeks since he looked like himself.

Does anyone  know of any support groups?

 
 
 

Am I making the right decision?

Post by chapelapp » Tue, 17 Jun 1997 04:00:00




Quote:
>One of my kitties,  Wolfie, has been battling Feline Leukemia.  He was
>only recently diagnosed, but the diagnosis was made after he had already
>tested negative once.  I took him to the vet because he had once again
>gotten an upper respiratory infection and I was worried he wouldn't be
>able to kick it.  That was 7 weeks ago.  He has been  on immunoregulin
>and was re-tested today.  Once again, he was positive for the virus.

>I spent all day today crying and asking myself what to do.  He is
>unlikely ever to get better, especially since he was sick already.  He
>has periods where he looks perfectly normal, and then he crashes
>big-time.  Now, he is crashing.  I am afraid he might pass the virus on
>to my other kitties who have been pretty much kept away from him since
>he was diagnosed.  I also know I have very little chance of being able
>to afford more extended care for him.  this one bout has been  pretty
>expensive as it is.

>  After just force-feeding him again today and seeing him look really
>bad (3rd eyelid and everything), I have pretty much decided to put him
>down.  It's breaking my heart, you know?  I wonder if anyone out there
>has gone through this and can tell me how they handled it.  I feel like
>I'm making the decision selfishly, as though I should wait and see if he
>gets better again.  It's just that I don't think he's ever going to be
>well.  It's been 7 weeks since he looked like himself.

>Does anyone  know of any support groups?

We are so very sorry for you in your ordeal  with your pet and
FeLV.  Four days ago, after a three week struggle to combat Chronic
Renal Failure in one of our 18-year-old kittens, we had her put to
sleep.  We had agreed to provide supportive therapy so long as she
could
be made comfortable -- no longer.  It hurt like hell, but it was
definitely the right thing to do.  Today we rescued a physical
look-alike from a nearby shelter.  Tamara will never replace PJ, but
she
is equally deserving of our love.  It's OK for you to feel pain, but
NOT
guilt.

//                 George McIntosh          
\\//////\\  ^ ^    Dallas, Texas  

 //    //    ^    
 \\    \\     Touch not the cat bot a glove

 
 
 

Am I making the right decision?

Post by acl.. » Tue, 17 Jun 1997 04:00:00



Quote:
>Does anyone  know of any support groups?

You may want to see if you can get access to the newsgroup
alt.support.grief.pet-loss both for help in making the decision
and after your loved one leaves you.

I am so sorry to hear you are losing your companion. You have clearly
tried to do what is best for them, and you are treating them with love
and concern. Those are the most important things. It is one thing to know
you 'have a pet' when it only means you feed and pet a creature, but
when they are truly family and you realize you are responsible for this
other creatures life, it can seem so overwhelming. All of us who have
been at the point you are at know some of what you are going through,
and feel for you. I hope you can find a course of action that works
 for you and your cat. When my family dog died of cancer earlier this
year I had to come to a point of accepting the fact I couldn't save
her life, and could only do what was possible to make her remaining time
good. My advice is to let your pet know that you love them, and to
make their time as good as possible. When they are no longer going to
benefit from what life they have left, it will be time to say goodbye.

best wishes,

Abigail

 
 
 

Am I making the right decision?

Post by Wayne Conr » Thu, 19 Jun 1997 04:00:00




Quote:
>One of my kitties,  Wolfie, has been battling Feline Leukemia.  He was
>only recently diagnosed, but the diagnosis was made after he had already
>tested negative once.  I took him to the vet because he had once again
>gotten an upper respiratory infection and I was worried he wouldn't be
>able to kick it.  That was 7 weeks ago.  He has been  on immunoregulin
>and was re-tested today.  Once again, he was positive for the virus.

>I spent all day today crying and asking myself what to do.  He is
>unlikely ever to get better, especially since he was sick already.  He
>has periods where he looks perfectly normal, and then he crashes
>big-time.  Now, he is crashing.  I am afraid he might pass the virus on
>to my other kitties who have been pretty much kept away from him since
>he was diagnosed.  I also know I have very little chance of being able
>to afford more extended care for him.  this one bout has been  pretty
>expensive as it is.

>  After just force-feeding him again today and seeing him look really
>bad (3rd eyelid and everything), I have pretty much decided to put him
>down.  It's breaking my heart, you know?  I wonder if anyone out there
>has gone through this and can tell me how they handled it.  I feel like
>I'm making the decision selfishly, as though I should wait and see if he
>gets better again.  It's just that I don't think he's ever going to be
>well.  It's been 7 weeks since he looked like himself.

>Does anyone  know of any support groups?

This is certainly a painful thing to experience.  I lost two wonderful
young brothers to that feline leukemia.  I took them to the vet when
they started throwing up frequently and the diagnosis came soon after.
The vet told me that some cats with feline leukemia live for a fairly
long time, but this was not to be the case.  I learned how to feed the
cats their medicine--the vet taught me how to use one hand to hold the
cat's mouth open and the other to toss the pill in and then stroke
it's throat until it swallowed.  I enjoyed their company for just a
few more months, but then their health became too poor for me to
bear--they were unable to keep food down, just wasting away.  It was
clearly time.

I took their deaths very hard.  I was single and far away from family,
so these cats were pretty much all I had.  The passing of Zig and Zag
(aka Kittler and Pussoulini) stung for a long time.  But as with all
passings, the pain eased and I now have new pets.  I'll never forget
those two, though.

I truly sympathize with what you and your cat are going through.  I am
glad someone was able to point out the newsgroup
alt.support.grief.pet-loss to you, and I am sure the people there will
be able to offer you good advice and support.  I wish you the best.

Sincerely,
  Wayne Conrad