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Post by Adria » Thu, 27 Dec 2012 01:38:07



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> Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Christmas!!!!

> Judith

Thank you, Judith. The same to you and your family.

--
Adrian

 
 
 

Happy Christmas

Post by Matt Ferrar » Thu, 27 Dec 2012 01:58:23



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> Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Christmas!!!!

> Judith

> --
> Judith Latham
> Stourbridge, West Midlands. UK.

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Happy Christmas

Post by Matthe » Thu, 27 Dec 2012 01:58:58



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> Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Christmas!!!!

> Judith

> --
> Judith Latham
> Stourbridge, West Midlands. UK.

Merry xmas right back
 
 
 

Happy Christmas

Post by Lesle » Thu, 27 Dec 2012 02:40:30


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> Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Christmas!!!! Judith -- Judith Latham Stourbridge, West Midlands. UK.

Happy Xmas- I've had the best one for ages and the best is yet to come- kitten are both burping off their ham and then they get their presents- new fethers onna stick and a mousie  and both of them love playing with the wrapping paper

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

 
 
 

Happy Christmas

Post by jmcquow » Thu, 27 Dec 2012 11:05:32



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> Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Christmas!!!!

> Judith

Happy Christmas to you and everyone on rpca!  Scritches and gentle
headbutts to your kitties from Persia and me.  Purrs for all who need them.

Jill

 
 
 

Happy Christmas

Post by Joy » Thu, 27 Dec 2012 16:10:44



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> Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Christmas!!!!

> Judith

> --
> Judith Latham
> Stourbridge, West Midlands. UK.

And a Merry Christmas to you and yours.

Joy

 
 
 

Happy Christmas

Post by Christina Websel » Fri, 28 Dec 2012 02:47:41



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> Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Christmas!!!!

> Judith

Coming late to this.  I hope everyone on the group had a good Christmas Day.
Boyfie hates it because he is left alone from lunchtime, apart from a brief
visit to feed him his tea, until bedtime.
Even though he  was out during 25/12 a.m. and again after tea time, he
showed his displeasure by pooing in the bath.

Not once, but again overnight.  He pulled a towel over it to hide it.  He
has a litter box next to the bath.
He's seriously annoyed about his Christmas Day.

I have not mentioned it to him and I won't.
And no, there is  nothing wrong with his bowels.  He has shown signs of
being over-attached recently by his continual need to be on my lap.   This
is a cat that can control his bladder and bowels for over 24 hours if it is
raining  and has a litter box right beside the bath for emergencies.
There was no emergency.  He did it because he was annoyed (IMO) by being
left after he'd got used to me being at home to attend to him all the time.
At least he does it in the bath which is easy to clean and not wee on the
beds.
Tweed

 
 
 

Happy Christmas

Post by Joy » Fri, 28 Dec 2012 04:02:38



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>> Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Christmas!!!!

>> Judith

> Coming late to this.  I hope everyone on the group had a good Christmas
> Day.
> Boyfie hates it because he is left alone from lunchtime, apart from a
> brief visit to feed him his tea, until bedtime.
> Even though he  was out during 25/12 a.m. and again after tea time, he
> showed his displeasure by pooing in the bath.

> Not once, but again overnight.  He pulled a towel over it to hide it.  He
> has a litter box next to the bath.
> He's seriously annoyed about his Christmas Day.

> I have not mentioned it to him and I won't.
> And no, there is  nothing wrong with his bowels.  He has shown signs of
> being over-attached recently by his continual need to be on my lap.   This
> is a cat that can control his bladder and bowels for over 24 hours if it
> is raining  and has a litter box right beside the bath for emergencies.
> There was no emergency.  He did it because he was annoyed (IMO) by being
> left after he'd got used to me being at home to attend to him all the
> time.
> At least he does it in the bath which is easy to clean and not wee on the
> beds.
> Tweed

Oh, yes.  I'm sure it's deliberate.  My daughter and her husband used to
have a cat that would poo right next to the front door when they went away
on a trip.  The cat sitter would write in her notes for that day, "Acey left
a 'present' by the front door."

Joy

 
 
 

Happy Christmas

Post by Christina Websel » Fri, 28 Dec 2012 05:40:46



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>>> Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Christmas!!!!

>>> Judith

>> Coming late to this.  I hope everyone on the group had a good Christmas
>> Day.
>> Boyfie hates it because he is left alone from lunchtime, apart from a
>> brief visit to feed him his tea, until bedtime.
>> Even though he  was out during 25/12 a.m. and again after tea time, he
>> showed his displeasure by pooing in the bath.

>> Not once, but again overnight.  He pulled a towel over it to hide it.  He
>> has a litter box next to the bath.
>> He's seriously annoyed about his Christmas Day.

>> I have not mentioned it to him and I won't.
>> And no, there is  nothing wrong with his bowels.  He has shown signs of
>> being over-attached recently by his continual need to be on my lap.
>> This is a cat that can control his bladder and bowels for over 24 hours
>> if it is raining  and has a litter box right beside the bath for
>> emergencies.
>> There was no emergency.  He did it because he was annoyed (IMO) by being
>> left after he'd got used to me being at home to attend to him all the
>> time.
>> At least he does it in the bath which is easy to clean and not wee on the
>> beds.
>> Tweed

> Oh, yes.  I'm sure it's deliberate.  My daughter and her husband used to
> have a cat that would poo right next to the front door when they went away
> on a trip.  The cat sitter would write in her notes for that day, "Acey
> left a 'present' by the front door."

> Joy

Yes, I know what Boyfie did was deliberate.  As I said he is quite able to
control himself if he needs to.  He was just p*sd off.
If he does it again I might show him it and tell him he's a very norty boy.
Atm we have ignored it but he very well knows it's not acceptable.
He is normally a very clean cat in the house and he needn't think I will
tolerate two poos in the bath for no reason. with a a litter box right
nearby.
I can accept one,which he did once before, but this is a deliberate thing
now.
I spoke to him about it and told him he'll never be trusted to stay inside
overnight  if he poos in my bath and the foxes would get him.
 He agreed not to do it again.

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Happy Christmas

Post by Christina Websel » Fri, 28 Dec 2012 06:16:28



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>>> Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Christmas!!!!

>>> Judith

>> Coming late to this.  I hope everyone on the group had a good Christmas
>> Day.
>> Boyfie hates it because he is left alone from lunchtime, apart from a
>> brief visit to feed him his tea, until bedtime.
>> Even though he  was out during 25/12 a.m. and again after tea time, he
>> showed his displeasure by pooing in the bath.

>> Not once, but again overnight.  He pulled a towel over it to hide it.  He
>> has a litter box next to the bath.
>> He's seriously annoyed about his Christmas Day.

>> I have not mentioned it to him and I won't.
>> And no, there is  nothing wrong with his bowels.  He has shown signs of
>> being over-attached recently by his continual need to be on my lap.
>> This is a cat that can control his bladder and bowels for over 24 hours
>> if it is raining  and has a litter box right beside the bath for
>> emergencies.
>> There was no emergency.  He did it because he was annoyed (IMO) by being
>> left after he'd got used to me being at home to attend to him all the
>> time.
>> At least he does it in the bath which is easy to clean and not wee on the
>> beds.
>> Tweed

> Oh, yes.  I'm sure it's deliberate.  My daughter and her husband used to
> have a cat that would poo right next to the front door when they went away
> on a trip.  The cat sitter would write in her notes for that day, "Acey
> left a 'present' by the front door."

> Joy

I know it's deliberate.  Boyfie always toilets outside.
It must be a sign of his distress for me leaving him, but I cannot stay in
all the time to make him happy, I do have another life.

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Happy Christmas

Post by jmcquow » Fri, 28 Dec 2012 23:55:30



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>>>> Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Christmas!!!!

>>>> Judith

>>> Coming late to this.  I hope everyone on the group had a good Christmas
>>> Day.
>>> Boyfie hates it because he is left alone from lunchtime, apart from a
>>> brief visit to feed him his tea, until bedtime.
>>> Even though he  was out during 25/12 a.m. and again after tea time, he
>>> showed his displeasure by pooing in the bath.

>>> Not once, but again overnight.  He pulled a towel over it to hide it.  He
>>> has a litter box next to the bath.
>>> He's seriously annoyed about his Christmas Day.

>> Oh, yes.  I'm sure it's deliberate.  My daughter and her husband used to
>> have a cat that would poo right next to the front door when they went away
>> on a trip.  The cat sitter would write in her notes for that day, "Acey
>> left a 'present' by the front door."

>> Joy

> I know it's deliberate.  Boyfie always toilets outside.
> It must be a sign of his distress for me leaving him, but I cannot stay in
> all the time to make him happy, I do have another life.

Ah yes, another life.  Inexcusable!  How dare you? ;)

I'm having a problem with a *hoomin* who seems to think I should always
be at home.  I've been getting phone calls, at first just occasional
calls.  Pleasant "hey, how are you doing?" chit-chat.  Not a problem.

Now it's turned into a daily thing... sometimes a few times a day.  This
person gets put out if I don't answer the phone.  Hey, guess what?
Sometimes I *go out*!  (Food, both people and Persia type, doesn't just
magically show up at my house.)

For example, if I'm cooking (or eating) I don't answer the phone.
Yesterday afternoon the weather cleared up and the temperatures were
very pleasant so I sat outside by the fire pit and read.  I heard the
phone ring but I didn't rush inside to answer it.  Five minutes later,
*ring ring*.  Nope, not getting up.  10 minutes later, *ring ring*.
Arrrgh!  (I knew it wasn't John calling because we'd already spoken and
he wasn't feeling well so he was going to take a nap.)

Nothing [in my life] changes that much from day to day, much less every
few hours!  If something interesting happened *I'd* be the one making
the call.  It's getting very tiresome but I don't want to hurt the
person's feelings.  I don't have caller ID so it's not like I see their
phone number and purposely decide not to answer.

I'm just Just ranting, because this person doesn't seem to care *why*
sometimes I don't answer the phone.  In their opinion, I should always
answer it.  Sorry, there is no law that says I have to.

Jill

 
 
 

Happy Christmas

Post by Mary » Sat, 29 Dec 2012 00:57:32



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>>>> Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Christmas!!!!

>>>> Judith

>>> Coming late to this.  I hope everyone on the group had a good Christmas
>>> Day.
>>> Boyfie hates it because he is left alone from lunchtime, apart from a
>>> brief visit to feed him his tea, until bedtime.
>>> Even though he  was out during 25/12 a.m. and again after tea time, he
>>> showed his displeasure by pooing in the bath.

>>> Not once, but again overnight.  He pulled a towel over it to hide it.
>>> He
>>> has a litter box next to the bath.
>>> He's seriously annoyed about his Christmas Day.

>> Oh, yes.  I'm sure it's deliberate.  My daughter and her husband used to
>> have a cat that would poo right next to the front door when they went
>> away
>> on a trip.  The cat sitter would write in her notes for that day, "Acey
>> left a 'present' by the front door."

>> Joy

> I know it's deliberate.  Boyfie always toilets outside.
> It must be a sign of his distress for me leaving him, but I cannot stay in
> all the time to make him happy, I do have another life.

Ah yes, another life.  Inexcusable!  How dare you? ;)

I'm having a problem with a *hoomin* who seems to think I should always
be at home.  I've been getting phone calls, at first just occasional
calls.  Pleasant "hey, how are you doing?" chit-chat.  Not a problem.

Now it's turned into a daily thing... sometimes a few times a day.  This
person gets put out if I don't answer the phone.  Hey, guess what?
Sometimes I *go out*!  (Food, both people and Persia type, doesn't just
magically show up at my house.)

For example, if I'm cooking (or eating) I don't answer the phone.
Yesterday afternoon the weather cleared up and the temperatures were
very pleasant so I sat outside by the fire pit and read.  I heard the
phone ring but I didn't rush inside to answer it.  Five minutes later,
*ring ring*.  Nope, not getting up.  10 minutes later, *ring ring*.
Arrrgh!  (I knew it wasn't John calling because we'd already spoken and
he wasn't feeling well so he was going to take a nap.)

Nothing [in my life] changes that much from day to day, much less every
few hours!  If something interesting happened *I'd* be the one making
the call.  It's getting very tiresome but I don't want to hurt the
person's feelings.  I don't have caller ID so it's not like I see their
phone number and purposely decide not to answer.

I'm just Just ranting, because this person doesn't seem to care *why*
sometimes I don't answer the phone.  In their opinion, I should always
answer it.  Sorry, there is no law that says I have to.

Jill

~~~~~~~~~~
I have a neighbor who does that, and she will talk on-and-on if I let her.
By contrast, I use the phone just to relay information, then I'm ready to
hang up.  There are only a very few people (my sister, for example) where I
want to talk for a long time.  This neighbor has serious emotional problems,
so I have given her a lot of leeway, but it finally got to the point where I
would simply tell her, "I'm sorry, but I can only talk for a few minutes."
She will basically ignore that and try to continue talking, but I have
gotten to where I will insist that I *must* hang up.  Like you, I don't want
to hurt her feelings, so I soft-pedal it a bit (probably too much because
she takes advantage), but I cannot turn my life over to her.  She hates to
be alone, and she would literally take hours of my time every day if I
permitted it.

I do have caller ID, and that has been a wonderful tool for me--not only for
her calls but also to avoid all those teleprompter sales people.  Is there
any way you could add caller ID to your phone?  You should not really "need"
to, but it really is a big help.  My phone has verbal caller ID, so I can
hear it announcing who is calling when it rings.  If it says "out of area"
with no name or "toll free caller," I know to ignore it.  If it's really
important, the caller can leave a message--and I will pick up immediately if
it's someone I know and want to respond.  If I don't feel like talking at
that time (or possibly am busy), I can always return the call later.

MaryL

 
 
 

Happy Christmas

Post by Joy » Sat, 29 Dec 2012 03:50:24



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>>> message



>>>>> Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy Christmas!!!!

>>>>> Judith

>>>> Coming late to this.  I hope everyone on the group had a good Christmas
>>>> Day.
>>>> Boyfie hates it because he is left alone from lunchtime, apart from a
>>>> brief visit to feed him his tea, until bedtime.
>>>> Even though he  was out during 25/12 a.m. and again after tea time, he
>>>> showed his displeasure by pooing in the bath.

>>>> Not once, but again overnight.  He pulled a towel over it to hide it.
>>>> He
>>>> has a litter box next to the bath.
>>>> He's seriously annoyed about his Christmas Day.

>>> Oh, yes.  I'm sure it's deliberate.  My daughter and her husband used to
>>> have a cat that would poo right next to the front door when they went
>>> away
>>> on a trip.  The cat sitter would write in her notes for that day, "Acey
>>> left a 'present' by the front door."

>>> Joy

>> I know it's deliberate.  Boyfie always toilets outside.
>> It must be a sign of his distress for me leaving him, but I cannot stay
>> in
>> all the time to make him happy, I do have another life.

> Ah yes, another life.  Inexcusable!  How dare you? ;)

> I'm having a problem with a *hoomin* who seems to think I should always be
> at home.  I've been getting phone calls, at first just occasional calls.
> Pleasant "hey, how are you doing?" chit-chat.  Not a problem.

> Now it's turned into a daily thing... sometimes a few times a day.  This
> person gets put out if I don't answer the phone.  Hey, guess what?
> Sometimes I *go out*!  (Food, both people and Persia type, doesn't just
> magically show up at my house.)

> For example, if I'm cooking (or eating) I don't answer the phone.
> Yesterday afternoon the weather cleared up and the temperatures were very
> pleasant so I sat outside by the fire pit and read.  I heard the phone
> ring but I didn't rush inside to answer it.  Five minutes later, *ring
> ring*.  Nope, not getting up.  10 minutes later, *ring ring*. Arrrgh!  (I
> knew it wasn't John calling because we'd already spoken and he wasn't
> feeling well so he was going to take a nap.)

> Nothing [in my life] changes that much from day to day, much less every
> few hours!  If something interesting happened *I'd* be the one making the
> call.  It's getting very tiresome but I don't want to hurt the person's
> feelings.  I don't have caller ID so it's not like I see their phone
> number and purposely decide not to answer.

> I'm just Just ranting, because this person doesn't seem to care *why*
> sometimes I don't answer the phone.  In their opinion, I should always
> answer it.  Sorry, there is no law that says I have to.

> Jill

I agree with you there.  I do have caller ID now, and I love it.  If I don't
recognize the name or phone number, I don't answer.  If I'm eating, or in
the middle of something I don't want to interrupt, I don't answer.  If it's
someone who really wants to talk to me, they can leave a message.  If I hear
them doing this and want to talk to them, I pick up.  I used to have this
idea that I had to answer the phone whenever it rang.  Realizing that I
don't has given me a great sense of freedom.  It also means that I no longer
have to deal with people trying to sell me something, and I 'missed' all the
political calls before the election.

Joy

 
 
 

Happy Christmas

Post by Christina Websel » Sat, 29 Dec 2012 04:57:28



Quote:

>> I know it's deliberate.  Boyfie always toilets outside.
>> It must be a sign of his distress for me leaving him, but I cannot stay
>> in
>> all the time to make him happy, I do have another life.

> Ah yes, another life.  Inexcusable!  How dare you? ;)

> I'm having a problem with a *hoomin* who seems to think I should always be
> at home.  I've been getting phone calls, at first just occasional calls.
> Pleasant "hey, how are you doing?" chit-chat.  Not a problem.

> Now it's turned into a daily thing... sometimes a few times a day.  This
> person gets put out if I don't answer the phone.  Hey, guess what?
> Sometimes I *go out*!  (Food, both people and Persia type, doesn't just
> magically show up at my house.)

> For example, if I'm cooking (or eating) I don't answer the phone.
> Yesterday afternoon the weather cleared up and the temperatures were very
> pleasant so I sat outside by the fire pit and read.  I heard the phone
> ring but I didn't rush inside to answer it.  Five minutes later, *ring
> ring*.  Nope, not getting up.  10 minutes later, *ring ring*. Arrrgh!  (I
> knew it wasn't John calling because we'd already spoken and he wasn't
> feeling well so he was going to take a nap.)

> Nothing [in my life] changes that much from day to day, much less every
> few hours!  If something interesting happened *I'd* be the one making the
> call.  It's getting very tiresome but I don't want to hurt the person's
> feelings.  I don't have caller ID so it's not like I see their phone
> number and purposely decide not to answer.

> I'm just Just ranting, because this person doesn't seem to care *why*
> sometimes I don't answer the phone.  In their opinion, I should always
> answer it.  Sorry, there is no law that says I have to.

This is a difficult one.  However this will continue if you don't find a way
to say (without hurting their feelings) "please don't phone me every day."
You might try "I like to hear from you but can we get this back to a
(weekly, fortnightly, monthly) call?  I get really busy.."
It still might offend them but the alternative is letting it carry on which
is driving you mad.
Perhaps others here could suggest a better phrase than I have.
You really do have to find a way, Jill, and take the bull by the horns,
otherwise you'll have to change your phone number.  It's a difficult thing
to stop someone calling daily who is obviously emotionally needy and it
usually makes you feel guilty but by offering a lifeline of a weekly etc
call being acceptable means you are not dumping them entirely.
This is the social work approach ;-)

You can't ignore the fact that you need to do something about it if it's
driving you wild, however difficult that may be.

Tweed