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I am worried

Post by Mary J. Perpic » Thu, 07 Dec 1995 04:00:00



I leave my cat with my husband when I go on business trips all the time.  
He is fine and he is 15 years old.  He is equally close to me and to my
husband.  My husband left him with me for 6 months when he went to serve
in Desert Storm.   Corky never forgot him and recognized him immediately
when my husband returned.  Your cats will be fine with your Dad.
 
 
 

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Post by <shamr.. » Thu, 07 Dec 1995 04:00:00


RO>Is this normal. I am going home for the first time in two years and my
RO>biggest worry is leaving my two babies here with my dad. I can't even
RO>leave the cats at home for a few days let alone a month. Is this normal,
RO>has anyone else ever had to leave the cats at home. How to cope??? Ack, I
RO>have a week to go before I have to leave.

RO>Catherine
RO>and the babies
RO>Oreo
RO>Ashes

No, this is totally normal.  I'm just as bad myself.  I don't even trust
my husband to do as well as I do.

Kate

 
 
 

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Post by CATHERINE ROP » Thu, 07 Dec 1995 04:00:00


Is this normal. I am going home for the first time in two years and my
biggest worry is leaving my two babies here with my dad. I can't even
leave the cats at home for a few days let alone a month. Is this normal,
has anyone else ever had to leave the cats at home. How to cope??? Ack, I
have a week to go before I have to leave.

Catherine
and the babies
Oreo
Ashes

 
 
 

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Post by dp.. » Fri, 08 Dec 1995 04:00:00


Catherine - be calm.  This anxiety is not only normal, but
required.  We have three babies, commonly known to us as the
GRLZ.  They are all approximately 6 years old and every time I
have to leave them home, I still panic.  I was panicking over
Christmas as we are travelling to my husband's parents' home
for the holidays.  My mother-in-law, dyed in the wool dog
lover, said that she wanted us to stay an extra few days and
also wanted us to bring our cats, knowing how we felt about
leaving them for any extended period of time.  Of course we
always have someone come to look after them, someone chosen
carefully.  They will always act like their feelings are hurt,
and they will act like they have no earthly idea who you are
when you come back, to include running and hiding under any
available bed.  Wait until it's time to go to bed.  I guarantee
they'll be right there to tuck you in!

Jamie & Fred
the GRLZ (Pixel, Irma, and Little Gray (AKA Puff, AKA Breenie))

 
 
 

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Post by Eva Quesnel » Fri, 08 Dec 1995 04:00:00



Quote:
> Is this normal. I am going home for the first time in two years and my
> biggest worry is leaving my two babies here with my dad. I can't even
> leave the cats at home for a few days let alone a month. Is this normal,
> has anyone else ever had to leave the cats at home. How to cope??? Ack, I
> have a week to go before I have to leave.

> Catherine
> and the babies
> Oreo
> Ashes

Catherine, it's purrfectly normal to be worried.  After all, they ARE
your babies.  But if you have a trusted soul to care for them, they will
be OK.  They will miss you and they may punish you when you come home.  I
have had cats "not speak" to me after being away.  They look at you and
make a point of turning their heads away to ignore you.  A few kitty
treats and many apologies will do the trick.  Good luck!

Eva & Chick
(and those dogs)

 
 
 

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Post by CATHERINE ROP » Fri, 08 Dec 1995 04:00:00


The cats will be fine, its me thats a wreck.

Catherine

 
 
 

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Post by Carla Ann Has » Mon, 11 Dec 1995 04:00:00


Kate posted:

Quote:
>No, this is totally normal.  I'm just as bad myself.  I don't even trust
>my husband to do as well as I do.

Kate,

I know how you feel!  But, I think Tasi and Mena like having their daddy take
care of them - their food bowls are certainly at lot fuller when I am out of
town.  I guess Blair is afraid they might starve and he would have to explain
it to me ;-).

Carla (and Tasi and Mena)
State College, PA

 
 
 

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Post by Cheshire C » Tue, 12 Dec 1995 04:00:00


I'd consider it normal and very considerate. I had trouble leaving in the
past, but always managed to get myself away for vacations and such. Now,
however, after losing Gabbie last year I just can't leave the rest.
Overnight is about all I can handle.

--
Andrea
aka Cheshire Cat

 
 
 

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Post by Hunt » Tue, 12 Dec 1995 04:00:00


Quote:


>> Is this normal. I am going home for the first time in two years and my
>> biggest worry is leaving my two babies here with my dad. I can't even
>> leave the cats at home for a few days let alone a month. Is this normal,
>> has anyone else ever had to leave the cats at home. How to cope??? Ack, I
>> have a week to go before I have to leave.

>> Catherine
>> and the babies
>> Oreo
>> Ashes

>Catherine, it's purrfectly normal to be worried.  After all, they ARE
>your babies.  But if you have a trusted soul to care for them, they will
>be OK.  They will miss you and they may punish you when you come home.  I
>have had cats "not speak" to me after being away.  They look at you and
>make a point of turning their heads away to ignore you.  A few kitty
>treats and many apologies will do the trick.  Good luck!

You may not even have that reaction.. We left ours at home for two
weeks in August, after our attempt to home them with a friend failed
miserably - we had taken them through the night before we left, and
got a phone call the next day to say they were still screaming, so
ended up bringing them back home and making emergency arrangements
with a neighbour to come in to feed them every day. We spent the whole
holiday worrying about them, as they were still panicky when we had
left, and even made check-up calls from the other side of the world to
check. When we got home, they strolled up to meet us as we opened the
door as though it was just another evening coming home from work...
The only thing we noticed any different was that Jaeger was friendlier
than she had been for a while.

So don't worry - if they're with someone you trust, which it sounds
like, they'll be as happy as when you're not there. Cats know how to
hurt, and they'll take they're revenge by assuring you that they
didn't miss you a bit.

Beth

 
 
 

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Post by . » Wed, 13 Dec 1995 04:00:00


Quote:

>A (new) friend in Russia wrote this to me today.  He needs help fast!!  I
>gave him the name, address, and phone number of an American company that
>makes little wheeled carts for cats with spinal paralysis but if anyone
>else can help him, PLEASE DO!!  He needs all the help he can get right
>now.  Maybe we could come up with a collection and buy the cart for him?
>University professors in Russia really don't make much money at all!  His
>address is:

[snip]

OK give us you address and we will all give a flying buck to moscow

nice try!

 
 
 

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Post by Gabrielle Laws » Wed, 13 Dec 1995 04:00:00


: Is this normal. I am going home for the first time in two years and my
: biggest worry is leaving my two babies here with my dad. I can't even
: leave the cats at home for a few days let alone a month. Is this normal,
: has anyone else ever had to leave the cats at home. How to cope??? Ack, I
: have a week to go before I have to leave.

: Catherine
: and the babies
: Oreo
: Ashes

I know how you feel.  I had to go away to college and leave my Symphony
at home for 2 years.  She always pretended she didn't know me when I
came home until after the younger kids went to bed.  I may have to leave
my new cat with them when I go off to grad school.  I am worried because
my family is not as spoiling as I am.  And like someone else said about
their cat, I'm more worried now since my Symphony died while I was away
last time.  My advice: Take your cats with you if you can.  If it's just
a short trip, leave them with your dad.  If it's a long thing and you
can't take them with you, leave them with someone you can trust.  If your
dad loves the cats too, they should be fine and you can always visit them.
They will remember and love you.  You'll be able to be together eventually.

--Gabrielle

 
 
 

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Post by Sally Ro » Thu, 14 Dec 1995 04:00:00


Quote:


> >A (new) friend in Russia wrote this to me today.  He needs help fast!!  I
> >gave him the name, address, and phone number of an American company that
> >makes little wheeled carts for cats with spinal paralysis but if anyone
> >else can help him, PLEASE DO!!  He needs all the help he can get right
> >now.  Maybe we could come up with a collection and buy the cart for him?
> >University professors in Russia really don't make much money at all!  His
> >address is:

> [snip]

> OK give us you address and we will all give a flying buck to moscow

> nice try!

Well, ".", I think you're being very unfair.  I work in a university and we
have with us at the moment a visiting Russian academic.  I know for a fact
that apart from her research post in Russia she also has to do two other
jobs in order to make support herself and her daughter.

Laura, if you really are serious about taking up a collection, I'd be happy
to contribute a pound.  A quid or a buck, it's a small amount for those of
us who are comparatively affluent Westerners.  I really don't think anyone
could come up with such a scenario just to make a bit of cash for
themselves???


 
 
 

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Post by LauraSa » Fri, 15 Dec 1995 04:00:00


Quote:

>OK give us you address and we will all give a flying buck to moscow

>nice try!

What??  Too chicken to include your return address???  I don't need
comments like that.  If you don't want to help, that's nice.  Just don't
flame those of us who do help.  
 
 
 

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Post by . » Sat, 16 Dec 1995 04:00:00


Quote:


>>OK give us you address and we will all give a flying buck to moscow

>>nice try!
>What??  Too chicken to include your return address???  I don't need
>comments like that.  If you don't want to help, that's nice.  Just don't
>flame those of us who do help.  

why not, with all the scams going on out here what says your for real!
If you are good luck. my return address??? thats for E mail not replys
to newsgroup postings

have a nice holiday season

 
 
 

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Post by LauraSa » Sat, 16 Dec 1995 04:00:00


Quote:

>why not, with all the scams going on out here what says your for real!
>If you are good luck. my return address??? thats for E mail not replys
>to newsgroup postings

>have a nice holiday season

That's ok,  I have a macro that caught it this last posting!

No, I assure you I am for real.  I do NOT scam people since I was always
taught that doing illegal things and sinning were wrong!  I'm one of those
people who actually (gasp and hold on to your hat)  tries to HELP others
in need.  And yes, I occasionally get taken by scams too.

Please don't wish me happy holidays...we both know you don't mean those
good wishes.  I don't mean that as a flame...just an observation.

My husband (computer guru extraordinare) informed me after I showed him
your *** comment yesterday,  that I committed an inexcusable faux pas of
improper nettitquette;  the sin of asking for help via newsgroup.  Since I
am still fairly new to the Internet, I was unaware of having done the
wrong thing.  FOR THIS BREACH OF ETTIQUETTE,  I DEEPLY AND SINCERELY
APOLOGIZE TO EVERYONE OUT THERE.  

I also ask you to remember that YOU were once new to the Internet too.
Don't automatically flame those of us who make innocent blunders.   You
probably wouldn't say such vicious things to their face, why cop out for
the anonymity of the Internet?  

Someone else posted something to the effect of there being a wave of
hatred and anger coursing through America.  I agree...and your posts upset
me very much for their nastiness to me.  I truly am trying to help this
person.  And no, I don't know if he's scamming ME, but I have other
friends in Moscow I trust who are running checks on him.  

Sorry we got into this mess!  I'll be unhooking my subscription to this
newsgroup after this post.  I have enough in my life (with my own profound
infertility and my husband's liver infection);  I don't need it from here
too.

Good Bye,

Laura S.